Six Simple Reasons Why Athletes Fail to Meet Their Goals
Why your athlete is struggling with their goals and how to find success
Daniel Gould, Ph. D. – Michigan State University
If your young athlete tends to lose focus partway through a season or fails to achieve their goals by the end of the season, they aren’t alone. Setting and achieving suitable goals isn’t an easy task, especially for kids who are also dealing with the expectations of the adults around them. The following will help explain why your athlete is struggling with their goals and what they can do differently to find success.
- They Don’t Have Ownership With kids, it’s easy for them not to own their goal. In other words, a coach or a parent often tells them what their goal is, and because they didn’t come up with it, the athlete really doesn’t have the drive to commit to it. You can help an athlete overcome this roadblock by letting them make a list of goals for the season without any input from you. You can discuss the goals after they are written out, but until then, refrain from giving advice. Make sure it’s really the athlete’s goals, not them echoing what they’ve heard or been told.
- They Don’t Have a Plan. Every adult has experience making a New Year’s Resolution that we didn’t follow up on. That’s because we spend so much time identifying what the goal is, but then we spend a lot less time developing the plan for achieving it. Without a plan for getting to the finish line, a young athlete is dreaming, not goal-setting. A child might say, ‘I want to make the starting lineup.’ But, do they know what do they need to do to make the starting lineup? Most will say, ‘I don’t know.’ But you can help them figure it out. Depending on the sport, it may be ‘I need to improve my fielding.’ Or more simply, ‘I need to be on time to every practice.’” Help your child create a road map, either written out or drawn as a timeline, of how to achieve each goal.
- They Don’t Revisit the Goal. This is a really common problem. Everybody sets goals at the beginning of the year, but rarely do they revisit them on a regular basis to evaluate progress. Goal-setting only works if people get feedback relative to their goal. Both coaches and parents can figure out a way to create ongoing feedback for an athlete and incorporate some kind of metric or evaluation. Research has also showed that motivation tends to wane between the time of goal-setting and the point of achieving the goal, but setting related mini-goals that are actionable can keep motivation high.
- The Goals Are Too Vague or Too Big. We know that goals that are specific and measurable are much more effective than ‘do your best’ general goals. For example, if I tell my kid that I want him to have a better attitude, that’s extremely general. That means so many things to different people. Instead, really break down what behaviors you want to see, such as demonstrating good sportsmanship, not making any snide remarks to officials, hustling between all drills, and saying thank you to your coach. Really clarify what success means. And goals don’t have to be massive championship-winning goals to be satisfying. Research has shown that smaller goals that are more easily achieved can be incredibly satisfying, so make sure that your athlete isn’t just setting huge goals.
- They Expect Perfection. Basketball legend Michael Jordan famously said that he missed more than 9,000 shots in his career. Pete Rose said if you got 3,000 hits, your average over 10,000 AB was .300, but you were also 0-7,000 over your career. There are baseball players in the Hall of Fame who failed seven out of 10 times at the plate. The whole idea that you have to be perfect is unrealistic, but some kids believe that it’s possible. Sports are a great way to teach a young person that one failure doesn’t mean that a goal is now unachievable or out of reach. If they fail at a goal, help them reboot. Set new, realistic goals based on new information. Later in life, we rarely have the opportunity to learn from failures with minimal repercussions, so use youth sport as a way for kids to build those skills and resilience that will serve them outside of sport and later in life.
- Their Goals Aren’t Your Goals. Sometimes, an athlete’s failure to meet a goal is simply a case of mismatched expectations between them and an adult. For instance, a parent might have been the star shortstop or pitcher in high school and therefore expect the same from their child – even though that young athlete would rather be playing tennis. Make sure athletes actually want to achieve the goals that they set!
Takeaway: It’s not surprising that many young athletes lose interest in goals or fail to achieve their goals during a season. Keep these barriers to success in mind as you help young athletes set and work toward their goals.
Daniel Gould, PhD, is director of the Institute for the Study of Youth Sports at Michigan State University.TrueSport®, a movement powered by the experience and values of the U.S. Anti-Doping Agency, champions the positive values and life lessons learned through youth sport. TrueSport® inspires athletes, coaches, parents, and administrators to change the culture of youth sport through active engagement and thoughtful curriculum based on cornerstone lessons of sportsmanship, character-building, and clean and healthy performance, by creating leaders across communities through sport.